My Beautiful and Amazing Daughter and Our Journey #TalkingWithoutWords #Kodabug

In September of 2013, I went to the hospital in severe pain. I didn't know what was wrong, but I felt like I was birthing a watermelon. The only thing that had happened, was I pulled a muscle in my abs from doing too many jumping jacks. We didn't know what was going on, except that I had to go to the emergency room. My husband stayed with Tbomb and we got my in-laws to take me up. My mother-in-law was very supportive and held my hand the whole time. 

After some examinations, an ultrasound, and pelvic exam, the doctor informs me that I had kidney stones, a hernia, and fibroid tumors. They get me set up with an MRI, bring me the stuff to drink, and give me demurral for the kidney stones. I'm drinking the MRI stuff and the doctor pokes his head in the door and tells me that I'm pregnant and don't need to drink that stuff. I'm blown away and my MIL and I jut stare at each other for what seems like forever. After some time, my mom and dad come up and the nurse informs me that I'm having a miscarriage and that is why I'm in so much pain. After being at the hospital for 6 hours, I'm finally sent back for an ultrasound. My paper work says that I'm 5 weeks. The ultrasound shows that I'm about 37 weeks, in active labor, and the baby is breech.

My in-laws run and get my husband, his grandparents meet them to watch Tbomb so my husband can be with me. After a cesarean, we have a beautiful baby girl.

She was a normal baby, but hardly cried. She did almost everything ahead of schedule, even rolled over at less than a month old. She fed herself early, took herself off the bottle at 5 months, and was amazing. Looking back though, she never babbled, very rarely cried, and was generally a quiet baby. She crawled early, never scooted, and it took her a while to walk. She is pigeon-toed, so when she finally started, she took off. 

Fast forward to now. Dakota will be 3 in September. She doesn't talk. We do not know why, and are waiting for developmental testing. She has had a hearing test, and has some trouble with some pitches, but not enough for it to cause trouble talking. She has said a few words once, but leaves the consonant off, but she won't say it again after the initial discovery of the word.

That being said, my Kodabug is an amazing little girl. She is so very smart. She is good at learning sign language (she can do about 20 on her own), and is getting better at using it without being told. She can show you numbers on her fingers, point to letters, and is a great problem solver. She in independent and loves puzzles. I have noticed some behaviors that are parallel to Autism, but that doesn't mean that she is Autistic. I just want answers so I can learn how to help her. Since we homeschool, I'm going to have to have some kind of training. We do try different things with her, and I will be sharing those things.  I even plan on sharing a good many sign language resources. If she just didn't want to talk, why would she use sign language.

Not a lot of people know about Dakota because I get tired of hearing "make her talk" and "that happens when people don't work with their children." I'm putting it out there now and I'm asking you not to be mean or insensitive in the comments. This is a struggle and I want to share in case any of you are having a hard time with something too.

If you are going through anything similar, please feel free to contact me and maybe we can have a support group. If you are interested in a Facebook group, comment and I'll see about getting one started. It doesn't have to be related to talking, just any struggle with your child.

In the mean time, this song gets me through the days, maybe it will help you too.