Book Review: If Mama Ain't Happy

 Disclaimer: I received this book for free to review. All opinions are my own. 


I love my family with my whole entire heart. When I first became a mom, people would tell me to take time for myself, keep myself healthy, and to set some boundaries. I thought they were foo-foo weaklings. I thought that I could do it all and they just couldn't. I thought I had been doing it all in my 20s. Boy was I wrong. Doing it all as a single lady with no kids is nothing like doing it all when you are 30+ with a husband and kids (let's include homeschooling those kids, running a business, and having one child with special needs). I got to where I was not happy. I was snapping at my kids and husband and even resented certain roles I took on. 

Over the years, I've learned more of what works for me, including having a certain size paper I can write a to-do list on- or I feel overwhelmed. This book has helped me even more. 


I used to be a mom who spent my days weary, anxious, and guilt-laden. I had five kids in five years, lived on three different continents, and then was blindsided by a devastating health diagnosis.

Neglecting my own physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional needs for so long—in an effort to be a selfless mother—had left me utterly depleted. And physically unwell.

Then I began asking a question I’d never considered before…

Could it be that taking good care of yourself is not actually selfish, but maybe, just maybe, something a responsible adult does?

Join me as we dive into the main areas of life causing moms to lose it… and how to get your peace back.



 

Why You Don't See Me: The Truth

This is a strange post for me to write, but I feel that I owe not only my readers an explanation, but also those bloggers that I love interacting with. 

If you haven't noticed, the only photos of me are from 9 plus years ago. Everything else, I'm behind the camera. There is a reason. No, I do not lack confidence, but I am aware that people on the internet are cruel and I don't want to open a can of worms to cause me to look at myself in a bad light- this is my form of protection. I hide behind the camera. 

These are some of the last photos I posted of me: 




The first picture is from about 11 years ago. I had started working on a paranormal podcast. The second picture is from about 8 years ago. I had started losing my teeth. The front ones were messed up, so I would still do pictures but close smile. I was no longer doing videos. Since then, all of my teeth have broken off. My pregnancy with my daughter caused my teeth to rot from the inside out and they look horrible. I no longer do pictures because my jawline looks different. Because of different things going on, I haven't been able to have my teeth cut out and dentures haven't happened but will. 

I know that the internet trolls will have fun if I did and I don't want to open myself to that. I love my followers and fellow bloggers. I love my life and love sharing my kids, creations, and ideas. 

If you have wondered why I'm always behind the camera when we should be in front- that is why!




Note: My kids will have pictures of us together. My in-laws and husband often sneak pictures of me doing things with the kids.